Spilled milk, charred mac and cheese, raw deep-fried chicken, your favorite series’ delayed premiere… all of these can make us feel varying feelings of sadness, annoyance, and a little bit of anger. But nothing is more emotionally traumatic than having our hearts broken.
A new year is always a good time to let the pain go and to move on to be a happier and better person of yourself. It’s a new day, after all, so let’s make the best out of it and try to walk away from things that made us feel down last year.
New Year resolutions: Know where you are in the stages of grief
As part of your New Year resolutions, observe all the stages of grief. In fact, determine where you are in those five stages right now. Are you still in denial, anger, bargaining, and depression? Or are you finally in the acceptance stage?
The five stages of grief were composed to help someone move on after a loved one passed away. The same absolutely holds true if you are trying to move on from an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. You may go back and forth with these stages but over time, you’ll notice that you’re spending more time in the acceptance phase.
Focus your energies elsewhere, or go to a therapy
There is no shame in going to therapy. If you really cannot find an outlet to focus your anger and pain on, you may talk with a professional to help you survive the heartache. You can go to a few sessions, and see how incredibly helpful it can be.
As soon as you’re feeling good about yourself, it’s okay to stop going to the sessions and just find a hobby you can focus on.
Do not rush into a new relationship
One of the most common mistakes of people who want to walk away from a failed relationship is to dive into a new one. They think this will help them forget about their ex. It’s farther from the truth, actually.
Take a moment to heal and to realize what went wrong in your relationship or your marriage. This will help you be a better partner in the future. Let “not rushing into a new relationship” be a part of your New Year resolutions to move on successfully.
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