You’re responsible for raising your own kids. And yet, there are people out there who think you’re doing it wrong. They spot your kid eating candy, shame on you. They see your son bawling in the middle of the grocery store, shame on you. They see your daughter playing with toy trucks rather than dolls, shame on you. Well, don’t you think this parenting shaming has to stop?
Sadly, it’s not going to go away that fast. However, there’s something you can do to deal with this issue. Read on to know what parent shaming is all about and how you can deal with it.
What Is Parenting Shaming?
Parenting shaming is criticizing parents for not following the standard protocols of taking care of their kids. It’s also the act of judging them for what is seen as others’ definition of parenting.
The type of shaming ranges from different things. Some of these issues include breastfeeding in public, the types of toys your children should have, the food they eat, their behavior in public and more. The list goes on and it varies per person.
— Bee and Baby (@beeandbaby) March 8, 2017
These people consider themselves “perfect moms” even though some of them probably don’t even have kids. They’re the people standing by shaking their heads at you when they see your kid throwing a tantrum in the middle of the mall. They’re the people randomly giving you advices as to why your kid shouldn’t be eating crackers when it’s almost dinner time. They deem themselves perfect and think they can take care and raise your child better.
How To Deal With It
It’s no question that parenting is hard. Some have parenting down naturally while others learn as their kid grows. There’s no one perfect solution to raising your kid and most moms can agree to that.
So how do you deal with people shaming you? Ignoring them works. Your kids are yours. Not theirs. You’re the one who’s spending money on their food and toys. You’re the one who lives with them 24/7. If anyone has a problem with the way you’re handling your kid, they have no right to tell you what to do. Unless of course you’re seeking help yourself.
One must also understand that empathy helps. If you see a mom going through a lot in public with her kid, instead of shaking your head at her, give her that “I understand” kind of smile. When her child drops a bottle, help her pick it up instead of watching her chase after it. The mom is obviously tired and doesn’t need any more judging looks from you. Empathy goes a long way.
At the end of the day, you’re raising your kid. Not those “perfect moms”. Parenting shaming very much exists in the society but now you know how to deal with it.